I am turning 30 years old by April this year. This is an important age, which is called "而立之年", meaning "Year of Independence" in Chinese. I should set a few long term goals and do something beyond the current being. Time flies and life changes all of a sudden. I live all by myself since 18 years old. Then I met my wife and got married. A life with two people is quite complexed. We need to be more caring and thoughtful to think on the other's feet. Without a sign, my wife got pregnant, though our plan is to have it 6-9 months later. Now it's getting more challenging. The expectation of being a good husband is getting much higher, and I strongly find myself not doing good enough. I am quite careless. I forget things and am not very efficient/elegant. I sometimes do things twice, or even a few times to get it right. I do not know how to take care of people. I do not have the life experiences/common knowledge of what other people may need and how I could